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All Of The Reasons You Shouldn’t Have Had Kids, According To Assholes On The Internet

“It’s not that I think you’re a bad parent, per se. It’s just that, like, you chose to have kids, right? Like, you got pregnant and you decided to go through with the pregnancy and now you’re having to deal with all these really common kid things. I’m not saying you should have had an abortion! Just maybe you didn’t think this whole kid thing through?”

Oh my word – this is perfect.

The Belle Jar

This is for reals satire, I promise – it’s based on the shitty shit people say to each other in parenting forums/Facebook/what-have-you

It’s not that I think you’re a bad parent, per se. It’s just that, like, you chose to have kids, right? Like, you got pregnant and you decided to go through with the pregnancy and now you’re having to deal with all these really common kid things. So I guess I’m a little confused about why you’re complaining? Like, you kind of asked for all of this, didn’t you?

Oh, you’re tired? Gee sorry I didn’t realize that no one had bothered to tell you that babies disrupt your sleep. I mean I just kind of assumed that you knew what you were signing on for when you became a parent. Jesus Christ, of course you’re fucking tired – that’s what having kids is all about. If you didn’t…

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Trauma and Your Brain

Not too long ago, I wrote about how I worked on my triggers.(*) This is a more detailed discussion of how and why trauma affects a person the way it does, including creating triggers.

(*)https://athenasantics.wordpress.com/2014/07/29/marriage-from-hell-the-happy-ending-iii/

Evolutionary Transcendence

It never fails to surprise me how often people suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder wait endlessly for the right tools for healing while no one provides them.

PTSD woman

But I guess I shouldn’t be surprised. In my own experience (I’ve had about 8 solid years of therapy in my life – that’s a lot of therapists!), there are many therapists who believe that in order to help someone heal, all you need to do is be a good listener.

I say that’s hogwash!

What I know from almost 2 decades of work as a therapist is that when someone finally comes to therapy, they have already exhausted other options. That is, they’ve talked to plenty of “good listeners” and found that having someone listen simply isn’t enough!

I have found this to be especially true in my work assisting with the healing of trauma. Victims and survivors of domestic abuse…

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